so my world burst!!!

[GregWhelan]

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All quality advice on these pages guys. Like everyone, I've been there just like Dhar_2. It truly is hell, I'll never completely get over it, will always be wary etc in the future.

Threehills had the best advice - avoid her at all costs mate. I saw an ex of mine shortly after a break-up, with a guy, in a place having fun. My heart literally tore in tow. I wanted to kick his head in and kill myself all at the same time. Save yourself that pain .........

[Yao]

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lol...can't deny that, to be honest. Got 2 dates waiting next week, the coolest of which should be the last one: going to a techno/electro/minimal night together, and actually she's more into schranz -the first chick in a while that loves it harder than me

[Lorn]

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^Slut.

[Yao]

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The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.

You hit me right in the nuts with this one, maybe I should pass it on to a certain female in the hope it helps her understand my move. That being said: had good sex last night with someone I picked up. It's getting so bad these days my friends are starting to call me a slut and my brother simply doesn't believe me anymore when I tell these stories

[funkykarma]

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it makes no sense. why is that the things in life that you value the most are the things that you always end up losing???

It's because in reality we UNDERESTIMATE those things of great value...I don't know about your situation but man, in relationships you can't take anything for granted

[DancingQueen]

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Dhar, so sorry to hear what you are going through

I can honestly say I have been there before (was with someone for 4yrs and he left me for another woman) and I never thought the pain would end at times. I kind of had a hard time adjusting and it honestly took me about 6months to realize I need to fix myself and abuot a yr total to move on. In the meantime I dated here and there and nothing really until a yr and a 1/2 ago when I met Chris.

I discovered love again and couldn't be happier. We are now at a really tough time in our relationship and parts of the pain I felt before are coming back to me, as well as a new type of pain I didn't know before...so believe me when I say I understand completely. I am not really going to get into my situation on a forum, but if you ever need to talk or anything, feel free to PM me.

Hang in there and as others have said, take this time to find yourself and lean on your friends. They can make a world of difference in the healing process.

[KinKyJ]

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^ women are confusing folk, dammit!!!

Nah, you just have to point them their place in society and speak in sign language once a while (jab, cross, right hook, left uppercut)

[Dhar_2]

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^ women are confusing folk, dammit!!!

[Yao]

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if you really love someone, to the point where you fought for that person tooth and nail, but in the end, you werent compatible enough to maintain a relationship, do you love that person enough to say goodbye, to stop the pain you cause them? that is the ultimate love and respect, the love to walk away for the betterment of thier mind, heart, and soul.-- brother joseph genovese. chaminade high school. (obviously loosely quoted, as its a decade ago)

Amen to that bro. You know what the downside of this is? When she doesn't want you to walk (despite not wanting a relationship), and acts all pissed when you find the strength to do this. Happening now here. That is fucked up, I'm telling you...

[RiseandShine]

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^^ that one you can have

[KinKyJ]

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tomtom just beat me at Yahtzee, now hate him

say goodbye to your skeleton park topscore as well

[threehills]

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The above advice is all excellent, my only two cents to add would be to stay away from her at all costs. Nothing will hurt quite like seeing her from afar laughing and having a good time with friends....espcially if they are male friends...espcially if its in a place where the two of you used to go.

[RiseandShine]

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^ good luck - keep yourself busy. let us know how it goes




tomtom just beat me at Yahtzee, now hate him

[Dhar_2]

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cheers kink

already in the pipeline. gonna take up jiu jitsu. also organising to help teach english to people less fortunate, (remember i'm in italy) just to give something back.

feeling kinda ok, its a weird limboesque state. have to see how things go.

[KinKyJ]

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^^^ dito

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

That one struck me in particular. Most of my exes have ended the relationship in the worst possible way imaginable. A few years ago, I even slipped into a depression after a break up from hell (that was the reason for vanishing from ms for months). And all that time I asked myself why I got treated like that even though I've always been loyal and caring and treated my girlfriends with respect. Why did I deserve that while others who fucked around or treated their girl like shit didn't get smacked in the teeth? (I think you can relate to that thought Dhar).

And then I ran into Erzina and it all started to make perfect sense: if I hadn't gone through hell and back, I probably never would've known how lucky I really am right now.

Trust me Dhar, it's a bit like karma or whatever: when you treat people right and do the right thing, you'll get what you deserve.

Btw, here's a little tip to digest the break up a little smoother: start with a sport which wears you out to the bone. I picked up thaiboxing after that break up from hell and it helped me get through the hard parts. When you're constantly haunted by grief and what ifs, it's bliss to clear your mind and downsize the world to yourself and the guy in front of you for a few hours per week... Prevents you from flipping out, really...