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[threehills]

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Black Snake Moan....pretty good flick featuring Samuel L. Jackson and Christina Ricci (above)

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0462200/

[floridaorange]

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^where on earth is that from?

[threehills]

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Simple solution....

[floridaorange]

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If all else fails tell her you are holding your breath and holding down tttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt until she comes back.

[dusk]

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Definitely feel a group hug right now

[Dhar_2]

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I am here if you ever need to talk as I am sure many of us on here are. *hug*

[DIDI]

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DQ , Beautifully said !! MS has great people

[pipey]

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awww thanks guys and gals.... i have been through this shit before with a girl that i absolutely adored and i was ok - but i love this one WAY more...

anyway, we shall see... ill keep you all posted - thanks for being there even tho we are all a million miles away.

[DancingQueen]

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Sorry I am just seeing this now...I don't know what I can add that hasn't already been said as there has been a lot of good advice given already.

Pipey, as others have already said, you need to let her go and sort out her issues. As hard as it will be to see her walk out that door, you need to stay strong and let her go. If she is having issues, however little they may seem, she is the one that needs to sort them out.

When you love someone so deeply and purely, it is the hardest thing in the world to let them go, believe me, I know. When Chris walked out that door almost a year ago, it was so painful that I didn't think I could go on at times, but somehow you find the strength and you do.

While she is out sorting her life, you need to continue with your own. You need to be out there living life for you and making yourself whole. When you are in a relationship, sometimes we lose sight of the little things that make us who we are as a person. Take this time to nurture and grow these things, so when you return to the relationship you bring back a more solid you.

While she is away, let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk, etc., but just don't put your life on hold for too long waiting by the phone or waiting for her to sign on MSN, etc. I did this in the beginning and it makes it that much harder as you start to wonder what they are doing, who they are talking to, etc., which makes it that more difficult.

Finally lean on your friends, family, and even MS, whenever you need to. It helps more than you can imagine. I couldn't of gotten through last summer without these people, and I am forever grateful to everyone who was there for me.

I am here if you ever need to talk as I am sure many of us on here are. *hug*

[Kamal]

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Bit of tough love here . Pipey, You are whining !! . You are not listening here either , you keep going "but, but "

that's what I meant by the heart having an illogical mind. When you truly hurt for someone, it's a headless chicken story. You run around looking for advise because you can't think straight and at the same time you end up not listening to any of the advise you do get because you want your lover back so bad.

You Pipey seem to be truly in love sir. A double edged sword that's destined to stab just as bad as it makes you feel good. The unfortunate part about love in the present times is that no two people truly truly love each other with the same emotional magnitude and this why a lot of the people (the one's more in love in a relationship) end up with incredible scars for life.

Like I said, keep your chin up, do what YOU think is right, and move on with your life for better or for worse. I know I sound like a negative Dr. Phil but shit mate I know what you feel, I've walked down this path once before and felt like a chicken entree. I DO feel for you.

[Dhar_2]

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well we all know didi's got balls!

[pipey]

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Thanks for the kick up the arse didi... i needed that you are so right.

[DIDI]

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thanks for all the great advice everyone... i know i know

the things she needs to get sorted are meeting some new friends, and getting her finances sorted. our jobs mean that our days off never fall together, so we dont get to spend enough time together = she could fix this by talking to her boss, as shes a chef and i work in an offce - i wish she woudl ask him for a couple weekends off = cos i know hed say yes....

she needs to see all the things that i do for her too - she has never been flatting or anything, apart from living with me - she has no idea, i have done everything - its going to surprise her to come back and see how tidy i keep my house without her - althoug, id have her and the mess back in a second.

Bit of tough love here . Pipey, You are whining !! . You are not listening here either , you keep going "but, but " You actually asking her to do a lot . If you let her go, while letting her know you are there if she needs you, she will discover all those things on her own and hopefully she will realise you are the one !

You are actually a lot better off if she does go out into the world on her own . If she doesn't she will always have the thought that she could be missing out!! Maybe she wants to know what she can do for herself!! If she comes back to you you will have a far stronger relationship. From what you have said the two of you have lot going for you, let her find that out for herself

Actually you don't have a choice here, you HAVE to let her go, or risk her resenting you and ruining everything you have now !!

Really hope it all works out for the best for both of you !!

[speciale]

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or, once she leaves get a hooker for the night. I am not sure how that will help the relationship, but it will help put your mind at ease. just kidding.

[floridaorange]

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OH!!! How could I forget, while your listening to her really well give her a foot massage She's a chef, so let her know that since she's on her feet so much you'd like to give her foot massages a couple of times a week.
Ok, I think you are all set!