Help!!!!!!!!

[pipey]

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so last night she broke up with me. man, i feel so low - i feel like i have been crushed.

[Dhar_2]

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it wasnt me!

[DIDI]

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shhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

people might notice!

We did already

[Dhar_2]

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Dhar bringing the gravitas to this thread!

whose bringing the nachos?

and there best be beer!

[floridaorange]

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its all well and good to crticise. and to be honest with you everyone needs to take on board a bit of criticism now and again. However, in situations like this, its not the head that is reasoning. she feels something and hence needs to act. whether this be rational, right or fair is somewhat of a null point. she's accting on instinct and everyones instinct is different. we as outsiders can see the error of her ways, yet we dont know what she is thinking. i'm sure we have all been in situations where we have done things that to others seems irrational.

the important thing here is not to point the finger but to be here for pipey.

Dhar bringing the gravitas to this thread!

[Dhar_2]

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shhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

people might notice!

[feather]

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its all well and good to crticise. and to be honest with you everyone needs to take on board a bit of criticism now and again. However, in situations like this, its not the head that is reasoning. she feels something and hence needs to act. whether this be rational, right or fair is somewhat of a null point. she's accting on instinct and everyones instinct is different. we as outsiders can see the error of her ways, yet we dont know what she is thinking. i'm sure we have all been in situations where we have done things that to others seems irrational.

the important thing here is not to point the finger but to be here for pipey.

Fuck dude, you're making way too much sense in here.

[dusk]

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she's acting on instinct and everyones instinct is different. we as outsiders can see the error of her ways, yet we dont know what she is thinking. i'm sure we have all been in situations where we have done things that to others seems irrational.

Very true...

pipey..at the end of the day you can chalk it down as experience. You will be surprised how much you & she will bend if ultimately you both really want this to work. What doesn't break you will only make you stronger.

[srbbnd]

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Has she told you why she doesn't want to live with you? Is she under the influence of some well meaning friends who've suggested she live alone and keep her own life?

Girls friends are like evil little wasps.

[Dhar_2]

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Hmmm...just read the whole thread for the first time. IMO you seem like a nice guy and I think you're under-selling yourself. Has she stopped to think how this is making you feel? I mean you are engaged and she moves out??? What the fuck is that? If a girl does that is it not natural to assume she has second thoughts? Honestly IMO you need to have a face to face conversation to establish what it is you each want in life and if your aspirations are compatible...if not - wish each other all the best or be prepared for some seriously hard work.

I know you love her and want her with you, but she's acting like a child. Just tell her to speak what's on her mind and stop expecting you to read it. That's what adults in a mature relationship do, they talk. They don't mope around in a huff, move out (throw a tantrum). The pretend to be adults and talk about whats bothering them. You work it out and thus develop a deeper understanding of your partner and you grow together. If she needs some time to collect her thoughts, fine, but a week is more than enough time to at least let you in on whats eating at her. a little peak at least, an attempt at mature open dialogue.

its all well and good to crticise. and to be honest with you everyone needs to take on board a bit of criticism now and again. However, in situations like this, its not the head that is reasoning. she feels something and hence needs to act. whether this be rational, right or fair is somewhat of a null point. she's accting on instinct and everyones instinct is different. we as outsiders can see the error of her ways, yet we dont know what she is thinking. i'm sure we have all been in situations where we have done things that to others seems irrational.

the important thing here is not to point the finger but to be here for pipey.

[feather]

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Has she told you why she doesn't want to live with you? Is she under the influence of some well meaning friends who've suggested she live alone and keep her own life?

[threehills]

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I know you love her and want her with you, but she's acting like a child. Just tell her to speak what's on her mind and stop expecting you to read it. That's what adults in a mature relationship do, they talk. They don't mope around in a huff, move out (throw a tantrum). The pretend to be adults and talk about whats bothering them. You work it out and thus develop a deeper understanding of your partner and you grow together. If she needs some time to collect her thoughts, fine, but a week is more than enough time to at least let you in on whats eating at her. a little peak at least, an attempt at mature open dialogue.

Thats why I love my wife. She's good at it. We always talk it out...sometimes yell and shout it out...but we cool off and come back to it, an hour and a day at a time and work it out eventually and love each other the more for it.

[floridaorange]

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thanks, 11pm here, about to go to bed, lol

[DIDI]

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Enjoy !!


just sitting having lunch

[floridaorange]

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Posted before I had a chance to understand what you meant. Your fast! (plus I'm enjoying a few sips of 16 yr old glenfiddich)